Newvember.

Fall is finally here; took long enough. I grabbed this photo from my iPhone on the way to work.

It's about time.

My job currently entails selling, organizing, and overseeing operations of advertising and ad properties all over the city. The office moved from the upper west side to DUMBO down in Brooklyn; and it’s a pretty dope spot.

First Desk at the door

Awesome conference room. meetingsmeetingsmeetingsmeetings.

Our place to CHILAAAX (according to Melanie)

Interns working hard (on youtube.)

My double screened view. and the art director working so super hard.

words on a wall. I don't know what it's supposed to mean. It reminds me of that scene in "A Beautiful Mind" where the dude is going crazy.

Also, I’ve already started to figure out plans to teach English in Korea; it’s just a matter of time. Meanwhile, I got to see N.E.R.D. live at a signing at Union Sq. woohoo!

N.E.R.d. signing. CHAD KAMUSTA!

Lastly, I got to meet up with Janie, after a whole year of not seeing her and it was awesome.
We had this awesome talk about life and love, and I came to the conclusion that if you don’t know what true love is,
how can you know if you are or aren’t in it?

I’ve come to realize that maybe, I never knew what true love is until recently, and maybe I never was in love.
Love is a selfless act, a feeling that is supposed to be never-ending, whether or not it benefits the self.
In the past, I can say that I “love” like someone who wants “love” in return, and yo, that isn’t love.

EROS
That erotic love a couple shares, the mix of lust and want. Food tastes different, breathing becomes harder, the chest becomes tight and the stomach lurches.

PHILOS
Brotherly love, or the love between friends. Not erotic but a strong feeling of dependency and commitment to someone who returns the same love. This sort of love is a relationship that needs reciprocation.

AGAPE
The eternal love, the love a mother shares for her child, God towards his people. No matter how bad a child acts up, the mom will still love the child. Even if the child leaves, dissapoints, maddens and disrespects the mother, if anything this might make the mother love her child more; to help nurture and find what’s best for the child.

 

I feel that I’ve only been able to have the capacity for that EROS and PHILOS type of love, with the AGAPE type only towards my family. Past relationships and friendships were always about giving in order to recieve; and I just feel like that isn’t what love is. There’s got to be a little bit of that, eternal-no-matter-what love I would say.

What do you think?
I’m still growing and living everyday. I’m sure in a year from now, I might be thinking or following something totally different.
I hope maybe this can help you understand a little bit about what you believe what love is.

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About izzyman

http://www.izzyman.com IZZY is an Intangible, part of the Intangible Collective, he has performed and competed since 2005 from Texas State to Pampanga, Philippines. He is a poet, writer, performer, music producer, rapper, musician, artist, dancer, and stuffs. His single"(LOL) Look of Love" off his upcoming mixtape/album "Symphony." was recently featured on the Blacksmith Community Mixtape by Talib Kweli and Mick Boogie.
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2 Responses to Newvember.

  1. Meg Dorak says:

    After reading this, i gave my life a lot of thought, and if you don’t mind I’d like to expand on this izzy. Coming from a background in psychology and sociology, I cannot help but be reminded of Sternberg’s triangular theory of love. He stated that there are three components to interpersonal relationships, intimacy, passion, and commitment. He also stated that there are seven different types of love. Yea, seven. A little much, but when you read what each type is, and what component they each have, it makes more sense. Now I don’t want to plagiarize, so: disclaimer: “this is from wikipedia”
    Intimacy – Which encompasses feelings of closeness, connectedness, and bondedness.
    Passion – Which encompasses drives that lead to romance, physical attraction, and sexual consummation.
    Commitment – Which encompasses, in the short term, the decision to remain with another, and in the long term, the shared achievements and plans made with that other.
    Seven Types of Love:
    Nonlove: is the absence of all three of Sternberg’s components of love.
    Liking/friendship: in this case is not used in a trivial sense. Sternberg says that this intimate liking characterizes true friendships, in which a person feels a bond, a warmth, and a closeness with another but not intense passion or long-term commitment.
    Infatuated love: is pure passion. Romantic relationships often start out as infatuated love and become romantic love as intimacy develops over time. Without developing intimacy or commitment, infatuated love may disappear suddenly.
    Empty love: is characterized by commitment without intimacy or passion. Sometimes, a stronger love deteriorates into empty love. In cultures in which arranged marriages are common, relationships may begin as empty love and develop into one of the other forms.
    Romantic love: bonds individuals emotionally through intimacy and physically through passionate arousal, but neither is sustained without commitment.
    Companionate love: is an intimate, non-passionate type of love that is stronger than friendship because of the element of long-term commitment. Sexual desire is not an element of companionate love. This type of love is often found in marriages in which the passion has gone out of the relationship but a deep affection and commitment remain. The love ideally shared between family members is a form of companionate love, as is the love between close friends who have a platonic but strong friendship.
    Fatuous love: can be exemplified by a whirlwind courtship and marriage in which a commitment is motivated largely by passion without the stabilizing influence of intimacy.
    AND, The one we should all strive for, but not everyone experiences:
    Consummate love: is the complete form of love, representing an ideal relationship toward which people strive. Of the seven varieties of love, consummate love is theorized to be that love associated with the “perfect couple”. According to Sternberg, such couples will continue to have great sex fifteen years or more into the relationship, they can not imagine themselves happy over the long-term with anyone else, they overcome their few difficulties gracefully, and each delight in the relationship with one other. However, Sternberg cautions that maintaining a consummate love may be even harder than achieving it. He stresses the importance of translating the components of love into action. Thus, consummate love may not be permanent. If passion is lost over time, it may change into companionate love.

    So there’s your psychology lesson for the day folks. Hope you enjoy.

  2. Yina says:

    Love isn’t scientific.

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